I'll make a great mother, should I have boys

I recently read an article that indicated why some famous women have decided against children. Some reasons seemed fair enough. A great response, by Cameron Diaz, was that her life was unbelievable. Others indicated they simply would not make a great mother for various reasons, and my personal favorite, by Margaret Cho, said she feels nothing when seeing children. That's right, she's got no maternal instinct. Now, had you asked me the very same question up until a few months ago, I probably would've had a similar response, despite being a mother (and a good one, I might add) to my fur kid just shy of five years. Interestingly enough for me, with age has come new wisdom, and with new wisdom has come new meaning. Unlike the responses that I read in the article, I've decided incredibly recently that I do believe one of my purposes in my life is to be a mother. It's literally felt like an awakening.

So what next? Well, I've decided that although I embrace the idea of motherhood, it's something that won't happen tomorrow, if ever. My reason? It's finding that person who I think is worthy enough to be the father of my children. I'm just not convinced I've found him yet. There's a reason I'm 31 and still single. I'm picky, I have incredibly high expectations, and I know exactly what I want in a relationship, and most importantly, for my own future family, and while I know exactly what it is I am looking for, I can't be disappointed if it never happens for me. I've got way too many blessings in which to be thankful, and I'm certainly not going to allow myself to lower my standards just to make it happen.

One blessing, in particular, has been being a so called "mom" to Alfredo. If nothing else, he makes it clear that I'd be a great mother, should I have boys anyway. Through broken limbs, ear infections, eye infections, allergy issues, etc., I truly understand what it's like for a little toddler-like being to be 100% dependent on me.

So how does being a mom to "boys" in the maternal statement come to play? Well, as I have probably mentioned previously, Alfredo actually has a girlfriend, who is a dog in the neighborhood. Here is Dion, pictured on a play date with him:

Sidenote: Now, despite being a girl, when I first met Dion, I thought she was probably named after Dion Sanders. Turns out, she's actually named after Celine Dion. Way off! What's even better? When I first met Dion's mom (Staci), she thought I told her my name was Beth, not Barb. She called me Beth for a good six months. I never actually corrected her. Classic! 

Back to the story. I've made sure Alf has treated Dion the same exact way I'd have any of my boys treat their girlfriends, with respect and like a princess. Here's a sneak peak from Valentine's Day this year...

 

I really truly do believe that any guy who turns out to be genuine is a direct reflection of how he was impacted by lessons learned from mom, which is the single most important reason why I believe I'd make a great one. No girl should ever settle for mediocre. Ever. Does this mean I'd make a great mom for my own daughters too? I'd like to think so, it just seems like it'd be an entirely different way of raising a child. Someone once told me that I should have girls, because I could teach them everything I know. This compliment still tops the list of the best I've ever been given. And since parenthood, I believe, must be such an extraordinary thing, I leave you with a quote, and song, which really sums it up, in terms of the importance of being a great parent. 

"The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother." ~Henry Ward Beecher

John Mayer, Daughters